Let’s talk about the awesome things about being an introvert!
I’ve talked about a few things that can make parenting as an introvert a constant struggle.
But today we are going to get into the advantages of being an introvert. (Because ain’t nobody got time to dwell on the negatives,
This is a guest post from fellow blogger Breanne from the health and wellness blog Essential Moves To Wellness. Thanks for joining us
We’ve all heard the negative stigma about being an introvert. But does anyone pause to think of the good things?
Introverts are often misunderstood, because they function differently than most people. And that’s totally okay.
If you’re an introvert that dislikes the way you are, then this article is for you.
I myself am a highly sensitive introvert that’s been bullied and isolated for it for years. But now I love who I am, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
How Do You Know If You’re an Introvert?
An introvert can be classified by one or several personality traits.
Some people may identify slightly as an introvert, or very high. It varies from person to person.
The top traits of an introvert include:
- Feeling drained when being around people for an extended period of time
- Enjoying solitude more than people
- Finding it challenging to remain focused in a stimulating environment
- Preference to watch rather than being a part of something
- A reputation for being “shy” or “too quiet”
My Own Journey with Being an Introvert
Growing up, I had all of these traits and then some.
I was bullied constantly for being too quiet in middle school (I mean, who did like middle school?), and no one truly understood why I was the way I was.
Things got better as I grew up, I found a few friends that accepted me for who I am. I just knew that there were certain social situations that I simply was not good at.
The word introvert didn’t become a part of my vocabulary until early college. My roommate told me about the Meyer’s-Briggs personality test, and she was curious about which personality type I had.
My results came back as INFJ, which stands for introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging.
I knew what the last three words were, but introverted, what was that?
I did more research on introversion and what it meant to be an INFJ personality, and it was like I found the missing switch to a light bulb!
It turns out that INJF is the most rare personality type, only making up 2% of the human population!
Basically, it means that not only am I a highly sensitive introvert, but I’m really good at reading people and seeing the unseen, and hearing the unspoken.
I know that the Meyer’s-Briggs test shouldn’t be taken as fact by any means, but it really helped me learn a lot about myself. It helped me embrace being an introvert.
The list that follows contains my top five favorite things about being an introvert, because you can totally use it to your advantage.
My Top Favorite Things About Being An Introvert
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1) Self-Reflect On Your Problems
One often-overlooked trait of an introvert is that they are incredibly self-aware.
While this can be a source of anxiety for introverts (I can definitely be a victim of my own thoughts), you can also use it as a beneficial tool.
Whenever you seem to be at war with yourself, stop and take a hard look at where your feelings are coming from. You’ll be able to see the root of your problems much better than the average person.
I certainly still have times where I feel bad about myself but I can’t tell why. But if I put all my whining aside and really look at what triggers my emotions, I get to the bottom of it pretty quickly.
Not only can you solve your own problems easier, but you’ll be able to see the answers to other people’s problems too.
Introverts prefer to watch a situation unfold, rather than be a part of it. This gives us an advantage of being able to see a situation from an unbiased standpoint.
So if you identify as an introvert, practice your self-reflection skills. You might be surprised at your newfound skill as a problem solver.
2) Be a Good Listener
Along the same vein of solving other people’s problems, good listening skills are imperative for an introvert.
One very common myth with introverts is that we are incredibly shy, when in reality; most of us just hate small talk.
I loathe talking about the weather, but if you want to talk about your favorite hobby or why you love your job, then I’m all ears.
My day job is a college writing tutor, and my students tell me that they feel they could tell me anything. And that makes me so happy with my job.
You can create this sense of trust with your own circle of friends. Try to really listen to what people close to you have to say, and don’t be afraid to give your own thoughts if it seems right.
Sometimes, people just need someone that they can talk to without judgment. It’s very therapeutic, and they will trust you more.
I love being that person in my friend’s lives, that person who they could talk to and trust with anything.
So hone your listening skills, and your friends will likely reciprocate the favor.
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3) Get Creative!
Another common trait of introverts is a highly creative mind. This is the case for some, but not all introverts.
Everybody is different, but if you identify as an introvert, you probably don’t feel your best surrounded by people 24/7.
So you have to get creative with a different outlet of self-expression. And because you value being alone over being with people, you have more time to think.
When I was going through my awkward pre-teen years, I randomly decided to take a ballet class near my house. It was one of the best decisions of my life.
I quickly discovered that ballet made me happy, and I felt like I could actually express myself better through movement than talking.
Over 12 years later, I still take ballet as a hobby. It’s really more like my exercise and anti-anxiety medication in one.
And ballet is only one form of self-expression that I love! I also love to write, and help others learn to write too.
Over the years, my love of writing got me on the path to blogging, and I’m turning it into my career. I simply took my passion for living a natural, healthy lifestyle and turned it into Essential Moves to Wellness.
You can read more about why you should remove the harsh chemicals from your life and try natural living here.
It may take some experimenting, but find something you can express yourself with! It doesn’t have to be ballet or writing. It can be painting, crafting, anything that speaks to you!
4) Choose Loyal, Genuine Friends
It takes a certain kind of person to be friends with an introvert. And that’s a good thing.
Remember all those people who bullied me in middle school? They just weren’t the kind of people that mesh well with introverts.
As I’ve grown up, I’ve learned that it’s perfectly fine to have a few friends you know you can count on instead of a large group of acquaintances.
Introverts tend to have only a few loyal friends, because that’s all we really need. If you see yourself as less-than because you don’t have very many friends, I want you to get rid of that mindset.
Having a few friends that you can rely on is so much more valuable than people that only see you as a means to an end.
So take a really good look at the people in your life, and try to figure out who would actually be there for you through thick and thin.
Then put more of your focus into those people. Go on the occasional outing, ask them for advice, and see what happens.
It may take a couple of tries, but you’ll find genuine friends that will actually care for you. And that is one of the most valuable things in life.
5) Appreciate the Little Things
Since introverts are often highly sensitive people, it doesn’t take much to please them.
My husband jokes all the time that he’s thankful I’m such an easy pleaser, but it’s true.
All I need to have a good night is a nice home-cooked meal, a new Netflix movie, and my man and my cats by my side.
Introverts don’t need lots of friends, or even very many material things. And that’s okay.
Think about the things that make you happy. It doesn’t matter how big or small they are.
When you have a good list, try to focus on the little things. You’ll be amazed at how happy and satisfied they make you feel.
The next time you feel bad about yourself, try to bring up that list of little things that make you happy.
You can even have a little DIY self-care kit ready to go that is full of things that make you happy. It can be a box with tea, candies, any of the little things that make you happy.
It’s Easier Than You Think to Rock Being an Introvert
While introverts are usually classified as awkward, antisocial people, that couldn’t be further from the truth.
If you learn your limits, and find people that truly value you and what you have to offer, you’ll learn to embrace being an introvert.
It will take time, but I promise you’ll embrace the way you are. I didn’t wake up one day and love myself. It took lots of time and effort.
So pay attention to who you think would be a valuable friend, and what would be the best creative outlet for you too.
Once you find your own version of self-expression, the feeling is so liberating!
There’s a meme I see every once in a while that says,
It always makes me laugh, but thanks to the Internet, we can actually do that.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to DaLorean or me if you have any questions. We know you can truly rock being an introvert.
What are some things you love about being an introvert? Comment below!
About the author: Breanne is the writer and owner of Essential Moves to Wellness; a health and wellness blog dedicated to teaching people how to eliminate harsh chemicals from their lives while becoming the best version of themselves. Breanne has been living chemical-free for over 7
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