Speaking of time management and using our time wisely, let’s quickly talk about things we need to stop wasting our time on!
Life can be stressful. Correction: Life is stressful. Gah, the
Yet there are a ton of things that we waste energy on that really, in the grand scheme of things, don’t and shouldn’t matter.
If you have anxiety, like me, then your stress levels are already high enough without adding trivial, unimportant things to the overspilling plate.
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And even if you don’t have anxiety, couldn’t you be focusing your time on more important things? Sure you could. We all should.
So here a list of things you should quit wasting your time and energy on!
Warning: This post will show a little bit of tough love, but will hopefully get you thinking about a few of the things we spend so much of our energy worrying about.
Things You Should Stop Wasting Your Time And Energy On
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1. Your looks
Striving to look like that photoshopped, unrealistic human in that picture are ya?
Or to look like that perfect, seemingly-always-gorgeous movie star who, might I mention, has a live-in personal trainer that has them work out every day for up to 8 hours a day and eating eggs, leaves, and a handful of nuts 3 times a day in order to mold themselves into the required body in order to play that role in the movie. Oh, and who also has a personal hair stylist, skincare guru, and makeup artist to draw on and color in that perfect face and manage that perfect hair (which I’d bet you $20 bucks is filled with fake extensions to even further achieve that “perfect” look).
Solution: Go take a picture of yourself, take a crash course on photoshop, and crop and slim your own picture into what you don’t actually look like in real life.
Then take that ridiculousness and chuck it straight into the trash.
As the late Dr. Seuss said…
Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
2. What other people think
The funny thing here is, we often worry about what others think of us when the fact is, the majority of the time no one is even thinking anything about us at all!
Keep in mind, and don’t be alarmed when I tell you this, you are NOT a mind reader. You don’t know what other people are thinking of you so hey, don’t worry about it!
3. Social Media
How often do you grab your phone and scroll through Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and all the other social media platforms out there?
Maybe when you sit in the waiting room at a doctors office. When you’re standing in line for less than 2 minutes at the grocery store. While your kids are playing off in their room somewhere. When you’re laying in bed attempting to fall asleep (not a good idea! I talk about why HERE in my Anxiety-Related Insomnia post!).
And all for what? To see what others are doing at that very moment? Or what they have been up to? To post what you’re eating today? To waste time making a picture of yourself with dog ears? (I don’t think I will ever understand the point of Snapchat!)
Ever wonder how much total time do you spend on social media per day?! Per week?! Yikes.
4. Your house being a mess. Especially if you have little kids
Just know, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a housecleaner come by once or twice a month to do your deep cleaning. *raises a hand* Even if you are a stay at home parent. *raises both hands* #TeamNoShame
Other than that, let it be messy. No one is expecting your house to be in mint condition, especially if you have kids (or a messy spouse lol) living inside of it!
And if there is that one person whom you think will be Judgy McJudgerson whenever they come over and see toys all over, laundry spilling out the baskets, or a messy kitchen, then tell them they are more than welcome to go clean it up themselves if it bothers them that badly.
5. The success or failure of others and comparing yourself to it (“Keeping up with the Joneses”)
I know. This one is hard.
Is it even possible to see the success of others and then not turn our attention on our own lives and how we measure up to that success?!
Even something as simple as your friend getting a new car. You can’t tell me that you don’t turn and look at your old clunker and, for a split second, wish you had the money to get a new car too.
But, your friend’s new car is their new chapter in their book of life.
It’s difficult, I know, but try and keep the focus on your own book of life.
Everyone’s book is different. That’s what makes us so unique!
6. Finishing a book or movie that just plain sucks
For some odd reason, the Sharknado movies come to mind. Hmm.. lol
Last week, I returned 2 books to my library after only reading about a chapter and a half. If I’m bored, then what’s the point of brutally trudging my way through it!? NEXT!
7. Keeping around toxic people in your life
There are over 7 BILLION people on this earth. Why are you fighting so hard to keep around that one or two who keep bringing chaos and trouble into your life?
The only way to make it through this crazy life, you need to surround yourself with positivity.
And what better way to do that than to surround yourself with people who make you feel good and push you to be a better person?!
8. Impressing your In-laws
Do you have a Mother-In-Law from H-E-Double hockey sticks? Or a sister or brother-in-law whom you wish would just go jump off a…
You may be fighting a very steep, obnoxiously tall, uphill battle with that one.
After having a talk with your partner about how they need to have a deep convo with their family about the way they are behaving towards you, let all else go.
All you can (and should) do is be yourself. Walking on eggshells around your in-laws is no way to live. Be the person your partner fell in love with! And if the rest of the family has an issue with it, OH WELL. Your significant other is who you’re spending the rest of your life with anyway, not them. 😉
You racked up the bill. And now it’s your responsibility to pay it off.
Make a plan to get it paid off. If that includes you or your partner getting a second side job for a little while to make some extra
If that means you have to buckle down and set up a strict budget for family, then do it.
In the meantime, make sure you don’t add to your debt by creating more of it!
The point is, make a plan, follow and stick to it, and move on.
The plan is there. Now you have no reason to waste energy worrying about it. Follow it and go on about your day.
Side note… Since June 2018, I’ve been using this new budgeting app called YNAB (short for You Need A Budget) and it is a game changer! I have never felt so in control of my money and so excited about the future (being debt free, that is). I totally geek out at the end of each month as I see how much “
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You can read my complete YNAB Review in my post: How To Take Control Of Your Debt And Stop Living Paycheck To Paycheck
10. Holding a grudge
WAY easier said than done, but … Let. It. Go.
It happened. It sucked. It was the worst. You dealt with it and made it through. Now move on.
Face forward and drive onward into the present and future.
11. Circling around trying to find the closest parking spot
You MUST realize that the amount of time you just spent circling the lot 47 times trying to find the closest parking spot, you could have parked, like, a block or two away and walked and already be there by now, right?!
12. Overanalyzing a text
That text could very well mean exactly what it says. Not what your mind spent so much effort blowing it up to mean.
If you are ever unsure, just hit the call button and ask the sender what exactly it meant!
13. Gossip – listening to it and also being the one to spread it
At your next Game Night, you and your friends and/or family play the game “Telephone.” In case you don’t know, here’s a quick rundown of how the game is played:
Player 1 whispers something into player 2’s ear. Player 2 whispers what they heard into player 3’s ear. Player 3 whispers what they heard in player 4’s ear, and so on, all the way until the last player.
Rules: each player can only whisper the phrase once in the next player’s ear. No repeats.
The last player says out loud what they heard from the previous person.
Object of the game: To show how small misconceptions can make a huge difference in the phrase.
This is 100% how gossip works. Only the “Telephone” game is for shits and giggles. Gossip can be detrimental to someone’s character, including your own, among other awful things. Especially if you’re the big mouth who thought it wise to spread around what you heard through the grapevine.
14. Traffic, even when you’re not in a rush
You’re headed to the store to pick up some chocolate to hoard and secretly eat after the kids go to bed because you hate sharing with them (lol) and you run into a big ‘
You sit there, wheels slowly rolling what seems like a couple centimeters every few minutes, waiting for the traffic to MOVE ALONG ALREADY.
You start to get antsy and pissy because, “What the hell is the holdup?! Grr.. LET’S GO!”
Finally, after what seems like a lifetime, you get up to the intersection and see that there was an accident, and that’s what was causing the traffic.
You zip past those cops who are waving people through and speed off because, ugh, you’ve been sitting in that stupid traffic for, you know, a freaking lifetime (which was actually only an extra 5-10 minutes or so).
Now you’re all road ragey and weaving in and out of folks because that traffic held you up, dang it!
Why was so much energy wasted on that traffic? You were just heading to the store to get some “secret” chocolate!
Chill, my friend. Even if you are in a rush (which you weren’t in this example), traffic isn’t going anywhere. Turn on some tunes and sing out loud while you ease your way through the pileup.
15. Other peoples political or religious views
Including you, people believe what they believe. There is no sense in arguing over who’s right or wrong when it comes to touchy topics such as politics and religion.
Unless you are speaking to someone who is sincerely seeking advice or direction on these two topics, the chances of you swaying beliefs are slim to none. Save that energy for something else.
What do you feel people spend too much time stressing over? Comment below!
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